Passages: Handfasting: A Pagan Guide to Commitment Rituals

Passages: Handfasting: A Pagan Guide to Commitment Rituals

Passages: Handfasting: A Pagan Guide to Commitment Rituals ❰Download❯ ➸ Passages: Handfasting: A Pagan Guide to Commitment Rituals Author Kendra Vaughan – Capitalsoftworks.co.uk The day you exchange vows with the person you love is one of the most important days of your life What better way to celebrate your commitment to one another than with handfasting the blessed marriage The day you exchange vows A Pagan eBook ✓ with the person you love is one of the most important days of your life What better way to celebrate your commitment to one another than with handfasting the blessed marriage rite in which the hands of you and your beloved are wrapped in ribbon as you tie the knot This symbolic binding together of your two loving Passages: Handfasting: Kindle - souls is a timeless way to begin life's journey together In this first book of the groundbreaking Passages series Rev Dr Kendra Vaughan Hovey reveals the history behind the ritual She clearly describes everything you need to plan your own ceremony including how to Find the right practice for you Select flowers and herbs and discover their meanings Follow recipes and spells for incense Handfasting: A Pagan eBook ☆ and oils Write invocations and vows Integrate Pagan and non Pagan traditions Choose the right officiant With this magickal guide you'll create a ceremony that not only reflects your devotion to one another but also ensures a lifetime of happiness.


10 thoughts on “Passages: Handfasting: A Pagan Guide to Commitment Rituals

  1. Sarah Sarah says:

    If you are a pagan looking to plan a handfasting run don't walk as far as you can away from this book As soon as I got into reading it I realized that it was very problematic and by the end I was glad I had gotten my copy from the public library so I didn't spend any money on this crap The problem is that Hovey approaches handfasting from an extremely limited perspective that is highly structured and leaves little room for individual practices thoughts and opinions Everything in this book is planned out for you for example The best man will start in the North and travel clockwise sprinkling water and salt mixture on the perimeter of the circle p 196 That one sentence exemplifies everything that is wrong with this book Instead of giving suggestions it gives orders What if you don't have a best man? Or what if you don't want to call uarters? Or what if you don't want to use salt? Well you are just SOLThis isn't a book to help you plan a ceremony this is a book that wants to dictate to you exactly what your ceremony should be Another example comes from a section on picking Gods and Goddesses for your ceremony where she states It is disrespectful to cross pantheons Not some people believe or you might want to consider but a strict order as though Dr Kendra has come down from on high to tell us all what we can and can't do with our handfasting I call bullshit on the whole thing Some pagan traditions cross pantheons all the time with no problem and it is simply rude of the author to expect that her personal opinions are the only way it should be done AND to try to use manipulative language to guilt people to have the wedding she wants And that is what the whole book is about orders not options Guilt not love The whole tone of the book is stern and selfish in my opinion Also this book is hella straight so if you are planning a same sex handfasting then there is nothing here for you Likewise this is a book that good for practitioners of highly structured Wiccan traditions NOT those who practice other neo pagan or eclectic traditions Interracial or intercultural marriage is also absent here You're just supposed to plug the names of Norse or Aztec gods into her rituals instead of creating rituals that actually mean something to your faithMaybe if you are a straight white traditional Wiccan looking for an authority figure to order and shame you into doing your wedding you will love this book I did not I did however adore Handfasting Wedding Rituals Welcoming Hera's Blessing because it was everything that this book was not and I recommend that wholeheartedly with 5 stars This book got 12 a star


  2. Elizabeth Elizabeth says:

    Can't decided on the rating actually On some aspects it was helpful like the section on the moon phases and I like the idea of scrying to figure out your dates especially if you are indecisive The section on the gods was crap; it barely scratched the surface on some gods and didn't even include a few such a Frigga who is the freaking goddess of marriage Her two hand maids were mentioned but they are of the collective or house of Frigga and not the whole The other thing was the rule about not crossing the pantheons I don't get it what exactly is the issue with that? I mean I understand that you should cross the pantheon with say another traditions ritual An example would be combining an Egyptian ceremony but using Celtic gods That makes sense But what if you and your partner worship from different pantheons? What if you and your partner worship a mixture of the pantheons such as You are into the Norse and Celtic gods and he is Hellenistic? What do you do then? The flower and herb sections was not bad but it only talked about these plants in their regards to love but what about the other shit like good fortune and kindness don't you want that in your ceremony Her Wicca was seeping through real bad I don't have anything against Wiccans mind you but like the Romantic Guide to Handfasting that I reviewed not too long ago this book claims to be Pagan but uses Wiccan doxology If I wanted a Wiccan guide to handfasting I'd get one I read over some of the other reviews and agree with the feeling of a limited perspective and feeling like I'm being order around You do this you do that no crossing no mixing and no almonds touching It's ridiculous I'm looking for a pagan guide to planning a wedding and maybe some marriage advice I did really appreciate however the section on inter religious ceremonies because sometimes life if way complicated than we initially plan That section seemed short but it was still not something I have seen yet when it comes to my studies Granted my situation is different my partner and I are pagan and we share a pantheon so not my situation but that topic should be touched on It was a nice attempt but not very satisfying


  3. Karen Karen says:

    I bought this before my own handfasting to help my husband and I plan the event four years ago The book has recently come back into my hands and I am enjoying looking through it once again This book is extremely informative and covers a wide range of topics related to the spiritual union of marriage Included are brief descriptions of various gods and goddesses who can be invoked to bless your union with their divine ualities The author explains the mysteries behind wedding customs that people of many spiritual paths follow today One chapter is devoted to themes for the ceremony that will give the couple creative inspiration and allows you to show your guests a little of your personalities through your ceremnony The traditions behind the wedding clothing from a ritual standpoint are addressed here as well as magickal meanings of flowers and herbs to be included in bouuets to be carried or worn Incense recipes are tucked into the text along with uses of essential oil Sample meditations cover many topics and blend well with the spellwork included in the book The author also gives inspiration for the couple to write ther intentions most often thought of as vows and participate fully in the writing of the ceremony There are many ideas stated on ways to include interfaith unions as well as many traditons from other cultures that can be borrowed for your ritual This book is not only extremely helpful during the planning stages of your event but a useful tool for romantic and spirtual life after the handfasting


  4. Alana Culver Alana Culver says:

    Over the TopIf you are looking to find a high magick detailed ritual where you cast the circle no matter who your audience this is for you If the idea of having a priestess bless your reception food and choosing your flowers by guided meditation seems a bit much this book will be a bit extreme for you The entire book makes no attempt at options for those whose families have very different religious background instead the first portion insists that they get out of the broom closet and their family can deal with it or not come However there are options to include their spouses religion but none tone it down any than reuesting the corners blessing instead of calling the corners when casting the circleAlso for a book that claims to be adaptable to same sex partners it spent a lot of time detailing how to choose flowers spells and herbs by male and female energy and how they need to balance each other out That and all of the fertility emphasis just felt a little weird to me Maybe a little 15th century wiccan?


  5. Natasha Natasha says:

    I wrote my own handfasting ritual thanks to this wonderful book There were many ritual outlines that did not speak to me but sometimes even within those rituals I would pluck a line or two out and use them I had so many compliments on my handfasting it was incredible I had many non pagan guests so the ritual I created was pretty light I wouldn’t have been able to pull it off without this book Thank you


  6. Jennifer Jennifer says:

    This was a great reference when I began officiating Handfastings gave me lots of ideas


  7. Elaine Elaine says:

    I found the history extremely interesting and enjoyed learning some about the pagan religious ceremony


  8. Jessica Jessica says:

    There is some good information in here though not as thorough as I would have liked


  9. Liz Wahba Liz Wahba says:

    My fiancé and I are getting married next summer Virus pending 7321 So I am starting to research what our ceremony can look like to include Pagan elements for me without offending both of our families This book discusses those challenges in depth for each major and some minor religions which was great Dr Kendra has a lot of information here that will help you conceptualize your ceremony Her first chapter on history was great and the philosophical sections about combining different faiths was good I liked her chapter on “coming out of the broom closet” too I needed to read that personally She had great meditations and rituals to do alone or with your partner too Bad stuff Dr Kendra never once goes from beginning to end on what a handfasting ceremony looks like What’s the point then? Worst of all she says many times throughout “never mix pantheons” I have never in all my life heard that before She also has very incomplete deity descriptions and inclusions Missing a lot of the main romantic gods and goddesses She also neglected to mention details about those she did include that are important Also a lot of her bibliography was Wikipedia articles Yikes Additionally the flowers and incense meanings were only from Scott Cunningham’s books which aren’t terrible but it’s hardly a well researched book to take all meanings from one other author If you are Wiccan and have a solid idea of what you want but want context this is a fine book If you are any other path and don’t know where to start this book may just confuse you It sent me out to find books but I don’t necessarily regret reading it as multiple perspectives are always good


  10. Eve Eve says:

    I find this book to be useful in planning or conducting pagan handfastings The author encourages readers to do their own research and nothing she has written is writ in stone She covers a lot of ground in this book from different pantheons her experiences interviewing christian priests and ministers etc when finding an officiant to perform the marriagecommitment ceremony which is a very real challenge for many pagans particularly if it is a dual faith relationship If you are planning your handfasting or facilitating one for someone else this book is a good read full of interesting information It's not the end all be all of handfastings just like with weddings from different faiths around the world each one is uniue This is just one perspective on this topic


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10 thoughts on “Passages: Handfasting: A Pagan Guide to Commitment Rituals

  1. Sarah Sarah says:

    If you are a pagan looking to plan a handfasting run don't walk as far as you can away from this book As soon as I got into reading it I realized that it was very problematic and by the end I was glad I had gotten my copy from the public library so I didn't spend any money on this crap The problem is that Hovey approaches handfasting from an extremely limited perspective that is highly structured and leaves little room for individual practices thoughts and opinions Everything in this book is planned out for you for example The best man will start in the North and travel clockwise sprinkling water and salt mixture on the perimeter of the circle p 196 That one sentence exemplifies everything that is wrong with this book Instead of giving suggestions it gives orders What if you don't have a best man? Or what if you don't want to call uarters? Or what if you don't want to use salt? Well you are just SOLThis isn't a book to help you plan a ceremony this is a book that wants to dictate to you exactly what your ceremony should be Another example comes from a section on picking Gods and Goddesses for your ceremony where she states It is disrespectful to cross pantheons Not some people believe or you might want to consider but a strict order as though Dr Kendra has come down from on high to tell us all what we can and can't do with our handfasting I call bullshit on the whole thing Some pagan traditions cross pantheons all the time with no problem and it is simply rude of the author to expect that her personal opinions are the only way it should be done AND to try to use manipulative language to guilt people to have the wedding she wants And that is what the whole book is about orders not options Guilt not love The whole tone of the book is stern and selfish in my opinion Also this book is hella straight so if you are planning a same sex handfasting then there is nothing here for you Likewise this is a book that good for practitioners of highly structured Wiccan traditions NOT those who practice other neo pagan or eclectic traditions Interracial or intercultural marriage is also absent here You're just supposed to plug the names of Norse or Aztec gods into her rituals instead of creating rituals that actually mean something to your faithMaybe if you are a straight white traditional Wiccan looking for an authority figure to order and shame you into doing your wedding you will love this book I did not I did however adore Handfasting Wedding Rituals Welcoming Hera's Blessing because it was everything that this book was not and I recommend that wholeheartedly with 5 stars This book got 12 a star

  2. Elizabeth Elizabeth says:

    Can't decided on the rating actually On some aspects it was helpful like the section on the moon phases and I like the idea of scrying to figure out your dates especially if you are indecisive The section on the gods was crap; it barely scratched the surface on some gods and didn't even include a few such a Frigga who is the freaking goddess of marriage Her two hand maids were mentioned but they are of the collective or house of Frigga and not the whole The other thing was the rule about not crossing the pantheons I don't get it what exactly is the issue with that? I mean I understand that you should cross the pantheon with say another traditions ritual An example would be combining an Egyptian ceremony but using Celtic gods That makes sense But what if you and your partner worship from different pantheons? What if you and your partner worship a mixture of the pantheons such as You are into the Norse and Celtic gods and he is Hellenistic? What do you do then? The flower and herb sections was not bad but it only talked about these plants in their regards to love but what about the other shit like good fortune and kindness don't you want that in your ceremony Her Wicca was seeping through real bad I don't have anything against Wiccans mind you but like the Romantic Guide to Handfasting that I reviewed not too long ago this book claims to be Pagan but uses Wiccan doxology If I wanted a Wiccan guide to handfasting I'd get one I read over some of the other reviews and agree with the feeling of a limited perspective and feeling like I'm being order around You do this you do that no crossing no mixing and no almonds touching It's ridiculous I'm looking for a pagan guide to planning a wedding and maybe some marriage advice I did really appreciate however the section on inter religious ceremonies because sometimes life if way complicated than we initially plan That section seemed short but it was still not something I have seen yet when it comes to my studies Granted my situation is different my partner and I are pagan and we share a pantheon so not my situation but that topic should be touched on It was a nice attempt but not very satisfying

  3. Karen Karen says:

    I bought this before my own handfasting to help my husband and I plan the event four years ago The book has recently come back into my hands and I am enjoying looking through it once again This book is extremely informative and covers a wide range of topics related to the spiritual union of marriage Included are brief descriptions of various gods and goddesses who can be invoked to bless your union with their divine ualities The author explains the mysteries behind wedding customs that people of many spiritual paths follow today One chapter is devoted to themes for the ceremony that will give the couple creative inspiration and allows you to show your guests a little of your personalities through your ceremnony The traditions behind the wedding clothing from a ritual standpoint are addressed here as well as magickal meanings of flowers and herbs to be included in bouuets to be carried or worn Incense recipes are tucked into the text along with uses of essential oil Sample meditations cover many topics and blend well with the spellwork included in the book The author also gives inspiration for the couple to write ther intentions most often thought of as vows and participate fully in the writing of the ceremony There are many ideas stated on ways to include interfaith unions as well as many traditons from other cultures that can be borrowed for your ritual This book is not only extremely helpful during the planning stages of your event but a useful tool for romantic and spirtual life after the handfasting

  4. Alana Culver Alana Culver says:

    Over the TopIf you are looking to find a high magick detailed ritual where you cast the circle no matter who your audience this is for you If the idea of having a priestess bless your reception food and choosing your flowers by guided meditation seems a bit much this book will be a bit extreme for you The entire book makes no attempt at options for those whose families have very different religious background instead the first portion insists that they get out of the broom closet and their family can deal with it or not come However there are options to include their spouses religion but none tone it down any than reuesting the corners blessing instead of calling the corners when casting the circleAlso for a book that claims to be adaptable to same sex partners it spent a lot of time detailing how to choose flowers spells and herbs by male and female energy and how they need to balance each other out That and all of the fertility emphasis just felt a little weird to me Maybe a little 15th century wiccan?

  5. Natasha Natasha says:

    I wrote my own handfasting ritual thanks to this wonderful book There were many ritual outlines that did not speak to me but sometimes even within those rituals I would pluck a line or two out and use them I had so many compliments on my handfasting it was incredible I had many non pagan guests so the ritual I created was pretty light I wouldn’t have been able to pull it off without this book Thank you

  6. Jennifer Jennifer says:

    This was a great reference when I began officiating Handfastings gave me lots of ideas

  7. Elaine Elaine says:

    I found the history extremely interesting and enjoyed learning some about the pagan religious ceremony

  8. Jessica Jessica says:

    There is some good information in here though not as thorough as I would have liked

  9. Liz Wahba Liz Wahba says:

    My fiancé and I are getting married next summer Virus pending 7321 So I am starting to research what our ceremony can look like to include Pagan elements for me without offending both of our families This book discusses those challenges in depth for each major and some minor religions which was great Dr Kendra has a lot of information here that will help you conceptualize your ceremony Her first chapter on history was great and the philosophical sections about combining different faiths was good I liked her chapter on “coming out of the broom closet” too I needed to read that personally She had great meditations and rituals to do alone or with your partner too Bad stuff Dr Kendra never once goes from beginning to end on what a handfasting ceremony looks like What’s the point then? Worst of all she says many times throughout “never mix pantheons” I have never in all my life heard that before She also has very incomplete deity descriptions and inclusions Missing a lot of the main romantic gods and goddesses She also neglected to mention details about those she did include that are important Also a lot of her bibliography was Wikipedia articles Yikes Additionally the flowers and incense meanings were only from Scott Cunningham’s books which aren’t terrible but it’s hardly a well researched book to take all meanings from one other author If you are Wiccan and have a solid idea of what you want but want context this is a fine book If you are any other path and don’t know where to start this book may just confuse you It sent me out to find books but I don’t necessarily regret reading it as multiple perspectives are always good

  10. Eve Eve says:

    I find this book to be useful in planning or conducting pagan handfastings The author encourages readers to do their own research and nothing she has written is writ in stone She covers a lot of ground in this book from different pantheons her experiences interviewing christian priests and ministers etc when finding an officiant to perform the marriagecommitment ceremony which is a very real challenge for many pagans particularly if it is a dual faith relationship If you are planning your handfasting or facilitating one for someone else this book is a good read full of interesting information It's not the end all be all of handfastings just like with weddings from different faiths around the world each one is uniue This is just one perspective on this topic

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