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Last Things ❮Ebook❯ ➭ Last Things ➮ Author Marissa Moss – Capitalsoftworks.co.uk Last Things is the true and intensely personal story of how one woman coped with the devastating effects of a catastrophic illness in her familyUsing her trademark mix of words and pictures to sharp e Last Things is the true and intensely personal story of how one woman coped with the devastating effects of a catastrophic illness in her familyUsing her trademark mix of words and pictures to sharp effect Marissa Moss presents the story of how she her husband and her three young sons struggled to maintain their sense of selves and wholeness as a family and how they continued on with everyday life when the earth shifted beneath their feetAfter returning home from a year abroad Marissa's husband Harvey was diagnosed with ALS The disease progressed uickly and Marissa was soon consumed with caring for Harvey while trying to keep life as normal as possible for her young children ALS stole the man who was her husband the father of her children and her best friend in less than monthsThis is not a story about the redemptive power of a terminal illness It is a story of resilience of how a family managed to survive a terrible loss and grow in spite of it Although it's a sad story it's powerfully told and ultimately uplifting as a guide to strength and perseverance to staying connected to those who matter most in the midst of a bleak upheaval If you've ever wondered how you would cope with a dire diagnosis this book can provide a powerful example of what it feels like and how to come through the darkness into the light.


About the Author: Marissa Moss

Who is Marissa Moss anywayI’ve been making children’s books for a looooong time I sent my first picture book to publishers when I was nine but it wasn’t very good and they didn’t publish it I didn’t try again until I was a grown up and then it took five years of sending out stories getting them rejected revising them and sending them back over and over until I got my first book Now I’ve pub.



10 thoughts on “Last Things

  1. Greta G Greta G says:

    At the end of their sabbatical year in Rome things start to go wrong Harvey is tired all the time and gasping for breath He also starts to stutter The doctors have no idea what’s wrong Only months later he’s diagnosed with ALS or Lou Gehrig’s disease Regular ALS starts with weakness in the arms and legs Eventually you end up in a wheelchair completely immobile When you can’t breathe any you die usually five to seven years after the diagnosis But Harvey has Bulbar ALS which starts with the tongue and throat muscles Death is generally two years after the diagnosisThe impact of the diagnosis on Harvey is drastic Harvey retreats in his office and shuts his wife Marissa and their three young sons out Marissa doesn’t recognize this man any “Harvey’s not sad He’s furious At me He’s never yelled at me before Now in an instant my warm loving husband for nearly twenty years is cold with rageIt’s shock I tell myself Later we’ll cry together hold each other But we don’t I’m sealed off in the Land of the Not–Dying”Harvey’s health condition deteriorates uickly and Marissa is soon consumed with caring for Harvey while trying to keep life as normal as possible for her young children “Do the boys understand what’s happening to us? Is it better for them to know or not know? How do you make a father’s dying easier for a child? I have no answers no idea what to do And Harvey won’t help Or maybe he can’t” The enormity of what Marissa is responsible for is crushing Harvey is the one she’d turn to for help with all this Only she can’t She has to face it all alone Maybe Harvey needs to be distant Maybe that’s how he faces death“Is dying like that? Something that takes all your focus all your concentration? A physical demand that strips away your sense of self? Have I already lost Harvey to the process of dying?”Marissa Moss’s sad story hit me hard This is a poignant story of how she her husband and their children struggled to cope with Harvey’s terminal illness Her writing as well as her black and white illustrations are straightforward and honest This is a book that’s impossible to put down once you start reading it “The pace of the disease still surprises me We plunge down its steep slope flailing desperately to stay upright until we skid to a halt Before we have time to assess the new landscape the ground shifts again pulling us down with it There is no status uo to get used to only the dizzying wrenching of our feet out from under us the powerful inexorable avalanche of the disease’s progression” In addition to writing this book she also finished the book Harvey —who was a medieval art historian— had been working on for than fifteen years Picturing Kingship History and Painting in the Psalter of Saint Louis a book about King Louis IX’s personal psalter “Writing is a way for me to find myself again and to reclaim Harvey who he was before he got sick Reading his words is like having a conversation with him again hearing how he thinks his passion for art and history”


  2. Calista Calista says:

    Heartbreaking This story is a difficult and sad story that will break your heart Marissa Moss is writing a Memoir about her family dealing with the time her husband came down with Bulbar ALS or a worse kind of Lou Gerrigs Disease This is a horrible disease to have There is no dignity in this at all Reading this gives me the overwhelming sense of how much Marissa loved her husband because she had to go through so much hell I can't believe the things she had to do It was monumental what she endured Her husband pulled away from her and the family and went internal in a place of denial and anger and who can blame him but he didn't do himself any favors Every decision he made just about was a bad one The saddest part to me what how he left his children in the cold He didn't try to keep the kids in his life and his children seemed to suffer for it as their mom did her best He made Marissa choose between him and the boys in the end and she had to choose life and her boys I can't imagine how agonizing that would be Marissa made some of the toughest choices a person could have to make in lifeSo much happens and there are so many disturbing developments as the disease ate away at Harvey Harvey couldn't swallow well and he could barely choke his food down That would be awful to listen to daily He would also have salvia build up in his lungs and had to suction out the fluid so he could breath It was a 24 hour job The suctioning had to take place about every 15 minutes This whole thing is horrible It should not be allowed to exist and yet it does and what a family bomb it is It just blows them up Harvey choose to finish a book he was working on for 16 years and he didn't finish it but Marissa took 4 years and she finished it for him after he died It was a very beautiful part of the book that really tied it up nicely or as nicely as this nightmare could be tied up She also published this book to sort out her feelings and memories of this time of no sleep and constant pressure a distant husband who left her and would hardly talk to her and her children needed so much during this time I tell you this powerful story is heartbreaking and powerful It is a beautiful little book in its own way About the worst case scenario in life


  3. David Schaafsma David Schaafsma says:

    Marissa Moss is the author of than 40 books most of them in her fictional children's series Amelia's Notebooks about what it means to be a girl at nine or ten and so on I had recently read her story of baseball in Japanese internment camps during WWII Barbed Wire Baseball and liked it but this is a very different subject for her The story of her husband's decline and death from ALS or Lou Gehrig's Disease and it is really well and powerfully told with searing honest Everyone in the family handles the disease differently but as Moss tells it the most painful part of it for her was the separation between her and her loving husband that happens almost from the beginning He's angry as hell and whys shouldn't he be? How would you handle it? Sometimes life challenges make you come together but sometimes you fall apart and maybe it's useful to know this so you can be prepared for your own emotional reactions to traumaSure it's about ALS so as you can imagine it is nasty brutal and inexorable and sure it is sad but my main emotional reaction was admiration for Moss's storytelling I want to thank her for taking the time to tell her family story; it is very useful in helping us see or remember for some of us the emotional effects of serious illness on a family I highly recommend it


  4. Elyse Walters Elyse Walters says:

    When I finished this VERY POWERFUL STORY one of the most honest graphic memoirs or any memoir for that matter about how a family functioned and survived a terrible loss and grew in spite of itI wanted to reach out and hug the authorand thank her personally and deeply for writing and illustrating this book My god — I couldn’t imagine being in Marissa Moss’s shoes with three young boys when her husband Harvey was diagnosed with ALS Lou Gehrig’s disease What stands out in this story is RAW TRUTHnot noble caregiving Marissa Moss doesn’t hold back from articulating how serious an illness affects a marriage and a family The story and illustrations together create so much intimacy Even when Marissa would swim early mornings in the dark with the master swim program I felt like I was in that pool with her listening to her thoughts And when she was on the phone speaking to doctors andor insurance companies with each child needing something I wanted to scream ‘for her’ Life goes on be it a Bar Mitzvah school projects SCHOOL food condiments are not exactly snacks or meals And? How about everyone understanding a disease starting from ground zero with each family member dealing differently? The part of this book that brought me tears of deep pride and I don’t even know this family to feel the amount of pride I feel is what Marissa wrote in ‘The Author’s Notes’and even the ‘ acknowledgment’ AgainI wanted to tell Marissa how moved I am This book touched me deeply and for those who have any doubts about the impact of a graphic Bookread this one


  5. Carol Carol says:

    With sincere thanks to Red Wheel Weiser Conari Hampton Roads Edelweiss and the author Marcia Moss who provided this e galley to be published May 1 2017Highly RecommendedLast Things A Graphic Memoir of Loss and Love is an emotionally raw memoir made all the powerful in graphic design It would be nice to think that everyone that has a terminal illness dies with bravery dignity and understanding losing the battle after a courageous fight while their loving family is by their sideI don’t believe it was Marcia Moss’ intent to lessen the severity of her husband Harvey’s illness ALS his death or to dishonor his memory but her wish through her writing and images to heal herself and her children Her book was many years in the making and is published with the permission of her three sons now adults We visualize Harvey’s anger at his fate one that seems to keep those closest to him at arm’s length shutting them out instead of allowing their love to comfort him Perhaps this is his way of protecting them and himself He never seems to move beyond this I did now walk in his shoes and I just don’t know I’m not certain Moss ever truly understands this either You cannot read without Last Things feeling sad However Moss shares an important story with us one of her resilience as she struggles to be the glue that keeps her family together during extremely hard times You cannot walk away with taking something from her story The title alone sheds insight that through the loss of much including many last things this author held on to her love of the man she married while nurturing her sons maintaining a family unit Don’t hesitate to pick this up but do pick your time


  6. Celia Celia says:

    Marissa Moss is a rock She has written this book and illustrated it too The book commemorates her family's journey as they watch her husband Harvey Stahl suffer and succumb to the horrible disease ALSThere are many themes in this book connection separation and the search for re connection after a lossFrom the back coverLast things sneak up on you slip away unnoticed unmarked the last kiss the last I love you because we assume there will be others We share a lot of lasts and don't even know itAlthough freuently painful to read it is poignant and honest and worth the time5 stars


  7. Rebecca Rebecca says:

    “You’re not aware of last things” Moss a children’s book authorillustrator writes in this wrenching memoir of losing her husband to ALS That is we look forward to and celebrate all of life’s firsts but we never know until afterwards when we’ve experienced a last The author’s husband Harvey Stahl was a medieval art historian working on a book about Louis IX’s prayer book As the book opens they were in Rome with their three boys for Harvey’s sabbatical year but when they got back to Berkeley they decided Harvey’s fatigue needed a doctor’s attention ALS is always a devastating diagnosis but Harvey had the particularly severe bulbar variety and his lungs were uick to succumb His battery powered ventilator led to many scares – one time Moss had to plug him into the wall at a gas station and rush home for a spare battery – and he also underwent an emergency tracheotomy surgeryThis is a very emotionally draining read It’s so distressing to see how instead of drawing closer and relying on each other Marisa and Harvey drifted apart Harvey pushed everyone away and focused on finishing his book and returning to his academic duties He refused to accept his limitations and resisted necessary medical interventions Meanwhile Moss struggled with the unwanted role of caregiver while trying not to neglect her children and her own career “I feel thin and easily torn like a paper doll” she writes Most of the time it was pasta for dinner every night She gives a clear sense of how impossible daily life became when Harvey’s condition was never stable but always deterioratingI’ve read several nonfiction books about ALS now including Bruce Kramer’s We Know How This Ends and Dan Marshall’s Home Is Burning The former is probably falsely optimistic while the latter is unpleasantly cynical Moss gets the tone just right though She’s a reliable witness to a medical and bureaucratic nightmare and the way disease tore through their family At the distance of years though she can write about her experience without bitterness and trace how they’ve put their lives back together I can see this being especially helpful to older teens with a terminally ill parentReleases May 1st


  8. Janet Janet says:

    I sat down on the couch in my office to read a few pages of this to get a feel for it and I didn't get up until I'd finished it in its entirety Marissa Moss's memoir is graphic in than one way yes it's a story told through both text and pictures but it's also visceral and heart wrenching She doesn't hold back on what it was like to lose her husband to a cruel disease and what it was like for her to maintain her own artwriting career while raising two boys and taking care of her rapidly declining husband Though the book focuses on ALS I think that anyone who has seen firsthand how a chronic debilitating illness affects a loved one and the relationship with that loved one will appreciate Moss's raw honesty


  9. Glen Glen says:

    I won this book in a goodreads drawingAn almost unbearably sad graphic memoir about a woman whose husband is dying of Lou Gehrig's disease It reminds of the comic strip For Better or For Worse only without the dog


  10. Rod Brown Rod Brown says:

    I was very moved by this powerful memoir of a family and marriage foundering under the weight of a terminal illness The anger at the situation and each new development from both the ALS sufferer and his wife struck a chord with me; I could see myself reacting similarly if I were either of them Moss very effectively depicts stress brought on not only by the diagnosis but the maddening pressure of the unrelenting series of decisions that have to be made thereafter and the second guessing and recriminations that can follow each and every one Popular culture too often shows us sainted terminal patients murmuring platitudes to their constantly loving and supportive families I'm very grateful to Moss for sharing this warts and all account of the end of lifeOnce I started reading I could not stop until I finished the whole book and the ending brought me to tears


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10 thoughts on “Last Things

  1. Greta G Greta G says:

    At the end of their sabbatical year in Rome things start to go wrong Harvey is tired all the time and gasping for breath He also starts to stutter The doctors have no idea what’s wrong Only months later he’s diagnosed with ALS or Lou Gehrig’s disease Regular ALS starts with weakness in the arms and legs Eventually you end up in a wheelchair completely immobile When you can’t breathe any you die usually five to seven years after the diagnosis But Harvey has Bulbar ALS which starts with the tongue and throat muscles Death is generally two years after the diagnosisThe impact of the diagnosis on Harvey is drastic Harvey retreats in his office and shuts his wife Marissa and their three young sons out Marissa doesn’t recognize this man any “Harvey’s not sad He’s furious At me He’s never yelled at me before Now in an instant my warm loving husband for nearly twenty years is cold with rageIt’s shock I tell myself Later we’ll cry together hold each other But we don’t I’m sealed off in the Land of the Not–Dying”Harvey’s health condition deteriorates uickly and Marissa is soon consumed with caring for Harvey while trying to keep life as normal as possible for her young children “Do the boys understand what’s happening to us? Is it better for them to know or not know? How do you make a father’s dying easier for a child? I have no answers no idea what to do And Harvey won’t help Or maybe he can’t” The enormity of what Marissa is responsible for is crushing Harvey is the one she’d turn to for help with all this Only she can’t She has to face it all alone Maybe Harvey needs to be distant Maybe that’s how he faces death“Is dying like that? Something that takes all your focus all your concentration? A physical demand that strips away your sense of self? Have I already lost Harvey to the process of dying?”Marissa Moss’s sad story hit me hard This is a poignant story of how she her husband and their children struggled to cope with Harvey’s terminal illness Her writing as well as her black and white illustrations are straightforward and honest This is a book that’s impossible to put down once you start reading it “The pace of the disease still surprises me We plunge down its steep slope flailing desperately to stay upright until we skid to a halt Before we have time to assess the new landscape the ground shifts again pulling us down with it There is no status uo to get used to only the dizzying wrenching of our feet out from under us the powerful inexorable avalanche of the disease’s progression” In addition to writing this book she also finished the book Harvey —who was a medieval art historian— had been working on for than fifteen years Picturing Kingship History and Painting in the Psalter of Saint Louis a book about King Louis IX’s personal psalter “Writing is a way for me to find myself again and to reclaim Harvey who he was before he got sick Reading his words is like having a conversation with him again hearing how he thinks his passion for art and history”

  2. Calista Calista says:

    Heartbreaking This story is a difficult and sad story that will break your heart Marissa Moss is writing a Memoir about her family dealing with the time her husband came down with Bulbar ALS or a worse kind of Lou Gerrigs Disease This is a horrible disease to have There is no dignity in this at all Reading this gives me the overwhelming sense of how much Marissa loved her husband because she had to go through so much hell I can't believe the things she had to do It was monumental what she endured Her husband pulled away from her and the family and went internal in a place of denial and anger and who can blame him but he didn't do himself any favors Every decision he made just about was a bad one The saddest part to me what how he left his children in the cold He didn't try to keep the kids in his life and his children seemed to suffer for it as their mom did her best He made Marissa choose between him and the boys in the end and she had to choose life and her boys I can't imagine how agonizing that would be Marissa made some of the toughest choices a person could have to make in lifeSo much happens and there are so many disturbing developments as the disease ate away at Harvey Harvey couldn't swallow well and he could barely choke his food down That would be awful to listen to daily He would also have salvia build up in his lungs and had to suction out the fluid so he could breath It was a 24 hour job The suctioning had to take place about every 15 minutes This whole thing is horrible It should not be allowed to exist and yet it does and what a family bomb it is It just blows them up Harvey choose to finish a book he was working on for 16 years and he didn't finish it but Marissa took 4 years and she finished it for him after he died It was a very beautiful part of the book that really tied it up nicely or as nicely as this nightmare could be tied up She also published this book to sort out her feelings and memories of this time of no sleep and constant pressure a distant husband who left her and would hardly talk to her and her children needed so much during this time I tell you this powerful story is heartbreaking and powerful It is a beautiful little book in its own way About the worst case scenario in life

  3. David Schaafsma David Schaafsma says:

    Marissa Moss is the author of than 40 books most of them in her fictional children's series Amelia's Notebooks about what it means to be a girl at nine or ten and so on I had recently read her story of baseball in Japanese internment camps during WWII Barbed Wire Baseball and liked it but this is a very different subject for her The story of her husband's decline and death from ALS or Lou Gehrig's Disease and it is really well and powerfully told with searing honest Everyone in the family handles the disease differently but as Moss tells it the most painful part of it for her was the separation between her and her loving husband that happens almost from the beginning He's angry as hell and whys shouldn't he be? How would you handle it? Sometimes life challenges make you come together but sometimes you fall apart and maybe it's useful to know this so you can be prepared for your own emotional reactions to traumaSure it's about ALS so as you can imagine it is nasty brutal and inexorable and sure it is sad but my main emotional reaction was admiration for Moss's storytelling I want to thank her for taking the time to tell her family story; it is very useful in helping us see or remember for some of us the emotional effects of serious illness on a family I highly recommend it

  4. Elyse Walters Elyse Walters says:

    When I finished this VERY POWERFUL STORY one of the most honest graphic memoirs or any memoir for that matter about how a family functioned and survived a terrible loss and grew in spite of itI wanted to reach out and hug the authorand thank her personally and deeply for writing and illustrating this book My god — I couldn’t imagine being in Marissa Moss’s shoes with three young boys when her husband Harvey was diagnosed with ALS Lou Gehrig’s disease What stands out in this story is RAW TRUTHnot noble caregiving Marissa Moss doesn’t hold back from articulating how serious an illness affects a marriage and a family The story and illustrations together create so much intimacy Even when Marissa would swim early mornings in the dark with the master swim program I felt like I was in that pool with her listening to her thoughts And when she was on the phone speaking to doctors andor insurance companies with each child needing something I wanted to scream ‘for her’ Life goes on be it a Bar Mitzvah school projects SCHOOL food condiments are not exactly snacks or meals And? How about everyone understanding a disease starting from ground zero with each family member dealing differently? The part of this book that brought me tears of deep pride and I don’t even know this family to feel the amount of pride I feel is what Marissa wrote in ‘The Author’s Notes’and even the ‘ acknowledgment’ AgainI wanted to tell Marissa how moved I am This book touched me deeply and for those who have any doubts about the impact of a graphic Bookread this one

  5. Carol Carol says:

    With sincere thanks to Red Wheel Weiser Conari Hampton Roads Edelweiss and the author Marcia Moss who provided this e galley to be published May 1 2017Highly RecommendedLast Things A Graphic Memoir of Loss and Love is an emotionally raw memoir made all the powerful in graphic design It would be nice to think that everyone that has a terminal illness dies with bravery dignity and understanding losing the battle after a courageous fight while their loving family is by their sideI don’t believe it was Marcia Moss’ intent to lessen the severity of her husband Harvey’s illness ALS his death or to dishonor his memory but her wish through her writing and images to heal herself and her children Her book was many years in the making and is published with the permission of her three sons now adults We visualize Harvey’s anger at his fate one that seems to keep those closest to him at arm’s length shutting them out instead of allowing their love to comfort him Perhaps this is his way of protecting them and himself He never seems to move beyond this I did now walk in his shoes and I just don’t know I’m not certain Moss ever truly understands this either You cannot read without Last Things feeling sad However Moss shares an important story with us one of her resilience as she struggles to be the glue that keeps her family together during extremely hard times You cannot walk away with taking something from her story The title alone sheds insight that through the loss of much including many last things this author held on to her love of the man she married while nurturing her sons maintaining a family unit Don’t hesitate to pick this up but do pick your time

  6. Celia Celia says:

    Marissa Moss is a rock She has written this book and illustrated it too The book commemorates her family's journey as they watch her husband Harvey Stahl suffer and succumb to the horrible disease ALSThere are many themes in this book connection separation and the search for re connection after a lossFrom the back coverLast things sneak up on you slip away unnoticed unmarked the last kiss the last I love you because we assume there will be others We share a lot of lasts and don't even know itAlthough freuently painful to read it is poignant and honest and worth the time5 stars

  7. Rebecca Rebecca says:

    “You’re not aware of last things” Moss a children’s book authorillustrator writes in this wrenching memoir of losing her husband to ALS That is we look forward to and celebrate all of life’s firsts but we never know until afterwards when we’ve experienced a last The author’s husband Harvey Stahl was a medieval art historian working on a book about Louis IX’s prayer book As the book opens they were in Rome with their three boys for Harvey’s sabbatical year but when they got back to Berkeley they decided Harvey’s fatigue needed a doctor’s attention ALS is always a devastating diagnosis but Harvey had the particularly severe bulbar variety and his lungs were uick to succumb His battery powered ventilator led to many scares – one time Moss had to plug him into the wall at a gas station and rush home for a spare battery – and he also underwent an emergency tracheotomy surgeryThis is a very emotionally draining read It’s so distressing to see how instead of drawing closer and relying on each other Marisa and Harvey drifted apart Harvey pushed everyone away and focused on finishing his book and returning to his academic duties He refused to accept his limitations and resisted necessary medical interventions Meanwhile Moss struggled with the unwanted role of caregiver while trying not to neglect her children and her own career “I feel thin and easily torn like a paper doll” she writes Most of the time it was pasta for dinner every night She gives a clear sense of how impossible daily life became when Harvey’s condition was never stable but always deterioratingI’ve read several nonfiction books about ALS now including Bruce Kramer’s We Know How This Ends and Dan Marshall’s Home Is Burning The former is probably falsely optimistic while the latter is unpleasantly cynical Moss gets the tone just right though She’s a reliable witness to a medical and bureaucratic nightmare and the way disease tore through their family At the distance of years though she can write about her experience without bitterness and trace how they’ve put their lives back together I can see this being especially helpful to older teens with a terminally ill parentReleases May 1st

  8. Janet Janet says:

    I sat down on the couch in my office to read a few pages of this to get a feel for it and I didn't get up until I'd finished it in its entirety Marissa Moss's memoir is graphic in than one way yes it's a story told through both text and pictures but it's also visceral and heart wrenching She doesn't hold back on what it was like to lose her husband to a cruel disease and what it was like for her to maintain her own artwriting career while raising two boys and taking care of her rapidly declining husband Though the book focuses on ALS I think that anyone who has seen firsthand how a chronic debilitating illness affects a loved one and the relationship with that loved one will appreciate Moss's raw honesty

  9. Glen Glen says:

    I won this book in a goodreads drawingAn almost unbearably sad graphic memoir about a woman whose husband is dying of Lou Gehrig's disease It reminds of the comic strip For Better or For Worse only without the dog

  10. Rod Brown Rod Brown says:

    I was very moved by this powerful memoir of a family and marriage foundering under the weight of a terminal illness The anger at the situation and each new development from both the ALS sufferer and his wife struck a chord with me; I could see myself reacting similarly if I were either of them Moss very effectively depicts stress brought on not only by the diagnosis but the maddening pressure of the unrelenting series of decisions that have to be made thereafter and the second guessing and recriminations that can follow each and every one Popular culture too often shows us sainted terminal patients murmuring platitudes to their constantly loving and supportive families I'm very grateful to Moss for sharing this warts and all account of the end of lifeOnce I started reading I could not stop until I finished the whole book and the ending brought me to tears

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